Letting go of fear by embracing failure
Looking back at life is a weird experience. Out of all the events that I look back on, I can’t help to reminisce on the monumental mistakes I’ve made. I know I’ve had some good times just like you’ve had your good times, but somehow I think about my mistakes. It’s those mistakes that causes me to become paralyzed when it’s time to take another step in my journey.
If you have similar thoughts that paralyze you during a time of opportunity then let’s work towards moving forward rather than looking back at what scares us.
No One Lives Without Fear
So how do we change this? How do we shed ourselves of fear? Well unfortunately we can’t. Fear is natural, and will always be apart of human nature. Over time you will get better at hiding your fear but never shed yourself of it.
I’m still afraid of heights, as a young child I would go to the mall with my family and when it was time to go to the second floor, I would walk as close as possible to the store entrances because I didn’t want to get too close to the rail. And just like most people I grew up and became better at hiding those fears. So much so that I can go to the mall without hesitation. Because I may never shed my fear of heights, don’t ask me to jump out of a plane. I’ve seen a parachute not open on a skydiver and although he survived I’m going to wait for you on the ground.
The sooner we understand that fear will always be apart of our lives, the better we will become at making decisions that will help us accomplish our dreams.
Mistakes Are Inevitable
If you’re reading this then you’ve made a mistake. Of course you’re currently not making a mistake by reading this, but you’ve made a mistake somewhere in your life. Mistakes are so important to our daily lives that we actually need them to appreciate the good times. Most of the time when people start to feel afraid, it’s usually because they’re afraid to make a mistake.
I can remember the first time I felt real fear as an adult. I was working for the City of Dallas at the time and I knew it was time move on. Opportunities were scarce during this time but I found an opportunity to work for a restaurant doing marketing and promotions. I was so afraid of quitting such a secure job, working with for city government, that I started questioning what would I do if I failed in my new role. Looking back at what happened then, I wish I could tell you that everything turned out great and I didn’t have anything worry about but this is real life and I live in the real world. In the end, I was left broke due to lack of payment and when I thought my loyalty would be rewarded one day I ended up looking naive with a bank account in the negative.
Mistakes will be made and they’re unavoidable. The key thing we should do is make the mistake, learn from it and move on. The feeling of fear will always be present but you can learn a lot more from making a mistake than avoiding them.
There are quite a few articles on the internet talking about the subject of embracing failure. After reading my share of them I realized that every article I’ve read have one thing in common: they recognize failure as a real thing. Not me! Failure isn’t real, neither is success. You show me what success or failure is and I will show you why it’s your personal definition.
The concept of failure isn’t real because there isn’t a singular definition excepted by every individual on this planet. This reason alone allows me to believe that failure doesn’t exist.
What does this position means for you, and our journey? Simple, EVERYTHING. The moment we stop believing in failure is the same moment we believe in dedicating ourselves to our journey.